It may be helpful to know that more than one-third of all women in North America will have an abortion in their lifetime. While it is one of the most common medical procedures, it can be hard to talk about.

You will probably have feelings after your partner has an abortion, and your feelings may be different from hers.

It is important to take care of yourself physically and mentally.

If you are looking for ways to support your partner, ask her what she needs. You don’t need to have all the answers.

Never underestimate the power of simply listening.

You can acknowledge any feelings your partner is having, without trying to “fix” them or brush them aside.

If you are an intimate partner, be affectionate if she welcomes it, but be prepared for her to not want to be sexual.

There are lots of great ways to offer your partner practical and emotional help, including transportation to and from appointments, providing childcare, providing or preparing food, or simply making sure she has the things that comfort her during a stressful/difficult time. Doing something special for her can help you both feel better.

Try to accept both positive and negative emotions during the experience.